Why does the feeling of anxiety seem particularly prevalent within the lesbian community? There are many outstanding girls who are both beautiful and cool, yet they always worry about losing their relationships and doubt themselves in matters of love... In fact, this kind of anxiety is really not being melodramatic; there is so much helplessness behind it! Today, we will conduct a rational analysis and, by the way, talk about how to break the situation.
Social Pressure: The Dilemma of Not Being Accepted
In a society dominated by heterosexuality, lesbians face pressure both at home and in the workplace. The lack of understanding from their parents, the strange looks from relatives and friends, and the implicit discrimination in the workplace all make them constantly aware of the differences from the mainstream. Loneliness and anxiety accumulate continuously.
Relationship Dilemmas: The Uneasiness of Being Anxious about Gains and Losses
Lesbians have a relatively narrow social circle, and it's not easy for them to find a compatible partner. This makes them cherish their relationships even more, and they are more likely to be anxious about gains and losses. A subtle change in the other person may trigger uneasiness. Moreover, due to the lack of social recognition and protection for their relationships, when compared with the public happiness of heterosexual couples, they are more likely to feel confused about the future of their relationships.
Self-Identification: The Torment of Contradictory Pulls
During the process of growing up, the idea that "heterosexuality is the norm" constantly impacts lesbians' self-awareness, making them fall into self-doubt about "whether I am normal or not". Even if they accept themselves, they still have to face external judgments when they come out. The contradictory pulls between themselves and the outside world continue to increase their anxiety.
Lack of Support: The Loneliness of Having No One to Talk To
When heterosexual couples have conflicts, they can talk to their relatives and friends. However, lesbians, due to the fear of not being understood and revealing their identities, can only digest negative emotions on their own. The lack of emotional support makes them feel lonely and helpless, and their anxiety becomes even more severe.
A Guide for Girls with High Emotional Intelligence to Break the Situation
Accept yourself and reduce internal friction: Your love is not wrong, and anxiety is not your problem; it is caused by the environment.
Establish a healthy view of relationships: Love is not the whole of life. Only by maintaining an independent personality can you make the relationship last longer.
Find a support system: Join lesbian-friendly communities. For example, by joining the LesPark community, you will find that you are not alone!
Learn to communicate: Instead of guessing blindly, it's better to directly talk to your partner about your uneasiness. In fact, a lot of anxiety stems from "thinking too much."