After experiencing a profound breakup, you are likely to feel that you will never find true love again in your life, and in fact, you have given up the pursuit of true love. At this moment, accept this idea calmly, but make sure to focus your energy on self recovery. In the end, you will change your mind and start your journey of finding love again.

How to restore state

1. Express sadness to the fullest: cry whenever you want, scream whenever you want, and vent your anger to the fullest. If you need external assistance during this period of sadness, there are massive resources available online for reference.

2. Completely cut off contact: cut off all contact with the ex. Block their phone numbers, prohibit them from accessing your social media and email, and remove their numbers from your contact list. Delete your group photo on social media, at least for now, and block your family and close friends. The temptation to contact them or check their updates to inquire about their ex is too great, but it must be resisted.

3. Refuse to continue being friends: It's too early to say that we should continue being friends, and the wounds in our hearts are still shocking and painful to touch.

4. Keep writing a diary: During the process of recovery, write down your feelings and emotions, and "release" your inner pain between paper and pen. This can help you avoid repeatedly indulging in these negative emotions and prevent them from accumulating deeper in your heart.

5. Adapt to emotional fluctuations: You will be repeatedly swept by various emotions without resistance. Feel them, embrace them, and immerse yourself briefly in them. If forcibly suppressed, pain will follow closely.

6. Healing with music: Some people find comfort in sad breakup songs, while others prefer to listen to passionate or even angry breakup songs. Think about which type of song can touch you more, create a playlist to play while driving or doing housework, and sing along loudly.

7. Plan for a brand new future: If your long-distance relationship has lasted for a long time, perhaps you have already made plans for the future. But now those plans have come to nothing, it's time to rethink our future. Think about what you want to do, where you want to go on vacation, and even whether you want to return to campus for further studies. During the stage of being enveloped by negative emotions, paying more attention to oneself can add a lot of positive energy.

8. Activate exercise mode: If you don't have a fixed exercise plan yet, take action. Go to the gym to get a membership card, start running, or sign up for yoga classes. Physical activity can promote the secretion of endorphins, which are hormones that can make people feel happy.

9. Do not act recklessly: Making major decisions during this period may lead to major mistakes. Everyone must have heard of someone who immediately regrets after getting a 'breakup hairstyle', and the same goes for resigning or getting a tattoo.

10. Regain past hobbies: Looking back on the things you put aside in love because your partner wasn't interested or liked, you can now pick them up again. It could be as simple as savoring a beloved delicacy, or as complex as keeping a pet.

11. Deep self analysis: This is a crucial self analysis. Think about whether you are too accommodating to others? Have you lost too much of yourself in this relationship? Are there too many demands and a strong desire for control? How is the communication going? What is missing in this relationship? Once you have clarified these, you will be able to understand what you truly want in your future relationships.

12. Don't fall into the "if" cycle: The past is already gone, and your current task is to actively and strongly overcome the sad period and prepare to start over.

13. Learn to spoil yourself: Now is the time to reward yourself well. Go buy some new clothes or something you've been longing for, which can instantly improve your mood.

Now may be the time to return to the 'love market'

A terrible breakup, that heart wrenching feeling, I believe you know it all too well. To come out of this pain and become a strong and optimistic person, it does require some effort. But if others can do it, you can definitely do it too. The above 13 strategies will help you overcome heartbreak, anger, and temporary depression, allowing you to regain vitality and bravely seek a new and better relationship.

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